I believe that divorce can be obtained amicably, and that is why I focus and dedicate myself to helping couples obtain a PeacefulSplit® divorce. Let me be clear: peaceful doesn’t mean or equate with painless. Divorce is a painful process. Divorce hurts, even in the best of circumstances. Men get hurt. Women get hurt. Children get hurt. But, the level of pain and hurt is not absolute and, with the right process and professional help, can be minimized.
Untangling two lives and planning for the future not only consumes a huge amount of emotional energy, but it also takes a high financial toll. What do you envision the process of ending your marriage should be? Fighting? Pain? Vengeance? Or do you wish and desire you divorce to encompass mutual respect, peaceful negotiations and efficiency? If you choose the former, then mediation is not for you! If you choose the latter, then read on and discover how Eric can help you achieve your peaceful and desirable goals.
In the traditional model of divorce, one spouse files papers in court beginning the divorce process. He or she may choose to hire a lawyer to represent them. The Summons and Petition will be served by the Sheriff upon the other spouse, who will then choose to respond "pro se" (meaning without a lawyer) or by hiring a lawyer. Either way, one thing is inevitable: the battle has begun. How it will end is anyone’s guess, but it often ends with no real winners and plenty of losers.
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PEACEFULSPLIT® Divorce Mediation provides you and your spouse with a safe and calm environment designed to maintain dignity, respect, and control over the divorce process.
Mediation using Eric's PeacefulSplit® process focuses on preventing the pain and damage typically associated with divorce. You can get through this challenging time in your lives and the lives of your children by focusing on a negotiated settlement via mediation - as opposed to the war of a court battle!
The biggest difference with divorce mediation over traditional divorce is ALL of the Power and Control to make decisions concerning the division of property, money, insurance, taxes, cars, investments, pensions, 401(k)s, houses, etc. rests with BOTH SPOUSES.
During the mediation sessions, Eric will bring up numerous topics dealing with finances and minor children (if applicable) and each such topic will be discussed at length by both spouses.
With Eric's guidance and assistance, a calm, respectful, and effective negotiation will take place with the goal of finding an equitable and fair resolution of each and every issue. Of course, some topics will be easier than others to find common ground. That is to be expected!
My role as mediator is to guide both spouses to a point where they can accept what I refer to as the “Both/And.” That is, the understanding that divorce does not and should not mean that “either” Spouse 1 got the better of the other spouse “or” Spouse 2 walked away the winner. When both feel that their divorce settlement is acceptable and they are ready to move on with their lives, I know that my job was successful.
When couples first contact me, they often ask if my predictable flat-rate fee is beneficial to them or would it be cheaper to just find some mediator who will charge by the hour.
I have been an attorney for 25+ years and have often charged clients by the hour for my legal services. What those experiences taught me is that legal services performed based upon an hourly rate almost always produce unpredictable final invoices. That unpredictability creates anxiety and stress for both client and professional since neither party has certainty as to the outcome of the professional fee.
Click here to watch my VIDEO to learn more about my thoughts about why my affordable flat-rate fee for my PeacefulSplit® Divorce Mediation service is best for all couples.
Eric combines his unique knowledge, experience, and skills as a lawyer with over 25 years experience, a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, and as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to help couples successfully negotiate resolution to all of the various and complex issues in divorce.
Eric and his wife, Erica, also practice Marriage and Family Therapy through their private practice called Discovering Destinies, Inc. They work with individuals, families and couples located anywhere in the State of Florida to help cope with a wide variety of topics, including issues related to all aspects of divorce (for adults, children and families). All therapy is done either in our local Boca Raton office, or via secure HIPAA-compliant telehealth video.
They are each Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists. Some couples may decide that they would like to try couple’s counseling before deciding on mediation. When working with couples, Eric & Erica work in a co-therapy format. This is a unique experience where there are two clinicians working with the couple. If Eric works with a couple in mediation, he ethically cannot and does not also provide therapy services to clients.
Erica is individually available to provide therapy services to either spouse or any children to help them work through their feelings and emotions and to make sense of the divorce. Therapy can help adults gain a new perspective and learn about their needs and dislikes in future relationships.
For children and teens, divorce can cause them to feel confusion, guilt, loss, pain, or abandonment. Children may not be sure which parent they should "choose," or be loyal to. They might also worry they are the cause of the divorce. Children often worry they are to blame for the separation.
Erica specializes working with children and teens to process these feelings, emotions, fears and the inevitable uncertainty and change that results from parents divorcing. If Eric serves as mediator and Erica provides therapy services, neither of us discusses with one another any aspects of the respective services we are providing to you and your family, and we maintain strict confidentiality in our individual roles working with you.
More information about therapy services and the practice can be found on the following website: www.DiscoveringDestinies.com or by calling/texting 561-475-5800.